The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
Have you ever found yourself beginning a sentence with, “Honestly…” I often say that when I feel like I’m sharing some important information or revealing my real thoughts on an issue. Like, “Honestly, I think my Royals need another pitcher,” or “Honestly, I don’t want to eat that.”
In such moments, I’m telling the truth, but when I say “Honestly,” I seem to imply that what I might have said previously could have been less than honest. If I have to tell you that what I’m about to say is the real truth, what about the stuff I said before that? I suppose that I give you the right to question my truthfulness in those times when I don’t say “honestly,” and, honestly, that’s not my intent. Do you know what I mean?
Now my point isn’t to insist that we should stop starting sentences with words like “Honestly.” Instead, we should speak and live in a way that makes those kind of words unnecessary. Words we speak can be serious or not serious, but they shouldn’t be either honest or dishonest. They should always be honest!
Truth is handled carelessly in modern times. Many people say what they need to say to get what they want. They over-promise to get the sale or leave out certain pieces of the truth to cover themselves or to get what they want from others. Some only tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth under duress. They have to be trapped in their lies before they come clean with the truth.
What kind of life does that build? Does playing games with truth really lead to lasting benefit. Sure, we may get the sales commission or avoid the immediate payment for our failures, but are we really winning? Aren’t we just building up to a bigger, more devastating loss someday?
In the Brotherhood, we make promises–purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. But what good are promises if the mouth that speaks them cannot be trusted? And if some of your words are true and others are deceptive, how will we know which mouth you’re speaking with when you make your promises?
You can’t win every game. You don’t get every sale. You won’t avoid every moment of trouble. But if you live dishonestly, then a day of losing is on the horizon where the cost will be greater than you think.
I’ve discovered that often in life, the right decision costs me something in the short-term but really pays off in the long-term. People who live dishonestly, play the game backwards. They trade the future for things today that don’t last very long.
When in doubt, tell the truth. When you’re not in doubt, tell the truth then too!