The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
So last night, another athlete was suspended for using performance-enhancing drugs. Yet another superstar apparently felt the pressure of his work to the degree that he thought cheating a bit to gain an edge or just keep up was worth the risk.
Most of us undertand the pressure. We know what it is to wonder if we have what it takes for today or tomorrow. How can we process all the information coming our way? How can we stay one step ahead of the competition? How can we keep today’s success working into tomorrow? The pressure to keep up or stay ahead may well prove to be the undoing of the western world. It’s certainly undoing a lot of its people.
Sure, we can look down on the multi-millionaires who forfeit a few games their bad choices, but the truth is that lots of other folks are getting caught without the ESPN headlines. Their getting caught with an alcohol problem, a porn habit, or some other addiction that’s doesn’t help them keep up, but gives them a hiding place for the feelings that they can’t.
Insecurities wil destroy you. Okay, first, know that we all have them. Many of us feel like we’re on a fast-moving train and must somehow jump onto another one without being smashed as we do. And we feel like we have to make that jump again and again. Behind the long hours, the great sense of humor, the bravado and polished look lies the same uncertainty and need for real sleep that you’re feeling.
So stop hiding that pain. When you try to keep those feelings hidden, they lure you into unhealthy and sometimes tragic choices. Talk to someone–find a friend and be a friend. It’s amazing how much easier one can manage insecurities if he’s not doing it by himself. A good friend can encourage you and help you maintain a healthy perspective that will keep the bad choices from becoming your choices.
And, if you cheat to win you’re victories wil be short-lived. Tomorrow you’ll have to cheat even more to stay ahead. And sooner or later the victories you’ve accumulated will be taken away. Don’t give in to the path that pressure offers. Find a friend and walk a better path together.