The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
This past weekend, the selfish actions of a man who played on my favorite football team dominated the national news. After killing the mother of his 3-month old child, this man took his own life, thus evading responsibility for his actions–at least in this life.
My dad taught me that there is no act more selfish than to commit suicide and leave others to deal with the problems you couldn’t face. Now, I know there are occasions of mental illness and other extenuating circumstances that apply to certain situations, and I have no desire to prove any point about suicide. But I am angry at this man’s actions for it casts a shadow on all of us.
From the beginning of this Brotherhood, we have pledged self-sacrifice for our families. We know that we are at our best when we are laying ourselves down for those God has caused us to love. When our wives and children experience life’s best, well, there’s no greater reward for a heroic man.
But when someone, famous or not, inflicts harm on those he is called to love, a dark capacity is revealed and affirmed that further encourages those who fear to trust. How could he or anyone else do such a thing? Surely God’s enemy crouches at our darkest doors, looking to wreak havoc on our lives. We must be stronger than that!
Like any pastor, I occasionally encountered men who raised their fists against wife and children. I must confess that no situation caused my compassion for sinful behavior to dip lower. I can stomach a lot of tragic choices, but harming your family begs for an excuse I could never locate. You simply don’t–no matter how angry, frustrated, or hopeless you might feel.
Never forget that when God sought a title to describe His love for us, He chose Father. I sure hope that 3-month old girl will grow to know God’s love, but I can’t imagine she’ll ever be able to see God’s full intent in offering her a Father’s love. There’s certainly going to be one horrific moment that encourages her to see that title as a dirty word.
For every evil deed done by a husband or father in the world around us, let us be determined to offer ten deeds of excellence, selflessness, and love. Don’t let evil win!