The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
If you are going to maximize your success in life, you have to learn to trust those around you.
Today, I heard a debate on a Sports radio station concerning a particular owner of a football team and his insistence on having to control everything. Those engaged in discussion ultimately agreed that his inability to empower the quality people around him had kept his team from success for most of the past fifteen years. He simply has to make every decision, and that keeps him from gaining the best efforts of those he’s hired (and it keeps the highest quality people away from his organization).
Fact is, you can’t do it all. You might be the “alpha male” in every setting. You might have amazing capacity and expertise. But you can’t do it all and do it all well. Those who achieve the highest excellence understand the importance of others in their efforts. They value the unique gifts others bring to the table, and they learn to trust those others to do what they do.
Control is an ugly thing. It’s also a very limiting thing. If my day is limited to my capacity, then I will live several notches below what’s truly possible. But when I value the contribution of those around me and free them to maximize our potential, everyone’s capacity grows, and our successes tend to grow with it.
And, if I can’t trust others to make a significant contribution to my efforts, how can I really trust God? If I must maintain control over others, it’s highly unlikely that I will be able to allow God to work in my life and His own initiative. I need what only He can do, but a life lived at my capacity level will never trust God enough to let Him lead me.
If control is your struggle, you have to learn to trust others. Otherwise, you will never learn to trust God.