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Attitude is everything. Well, almost…
Nearly every day I am reminded of the importance of how I manage my perspective on what I face. It’s so easy and so common for people to let circumstances or the behaviors of people shape my day. But in truth, it’s my day and I can decide the spirit with which I want to live it.
A negative attitude can prove quite costly. I’ve seen good friends talk themselves out of good jobs. I watched people make their own lives miserable, all because their attitude turned south and they couldn’t bring it back. Yes, there are frustrations and setbacks and mistreatments in life. There are people who make your tasks harder or less pleasant, but allowing such realities to affect my attitude affects me more than anyone else.
One component of a negative attitude that I see frequently is when people form opinions about other people and what they think they should be doing. Trying to do someone else’s job for them, or just developing a firm conviction about how they ought to be doing it can really twist my attitude into an unhealthy origami. Don’t let it happen! Just give your best to YOUR best and let those with the responsibility to fix other people do their own job. You’ll live longer and be a lot happier.
Often a negative attitude is an indicator of pride and self-focus. Bad attitudes form easiest when I react to “how things affect me.” First, realize that you’re not the center of anyone else’s universe so you shouldn’t be shocked when they didn’t consider your personal interests when making their choices. As the great saying goes, “You wouldn’t care so much about what people thought of you if you knew how seldom they did!”
Some good ways to guard your attitude include getting more sunlight (seriously), and choosing to focus your thoughts on the positive things in your life. If you don’t see any of those, start with the fact that you can both see this blog and read it. Eyesight and literacy are two legitimate blessings, but I’m guessing you can find a few more.
And look for ways to contribute a positive spirit to other people’s days. Smile more, care more, and give your best to what you can control. Don’t let what others control start controlling you!
Attitude may not be everything, but it’s pretty close…