The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
Guys need other guys.
There’s something about time spent with other guys that refuels a man. Yes, we live for others. We sacrifice for our families. We give our best on the job. But we have a limit to our strength, our capacity, our focus. Men need time with other men to rekindle the energy that it takes to live responsibly.
I felt this last Saturday as I attended a KC Royals game with a bunch of guys. Honestly, I only knew a few of the thirty or so in our group, but the time to relax and just be with guys was energizing. I’m not a real expressive person, so shouting at the guys on the field or doing “the wave” isn’t really me, but still I left the stadium with a little more energy for life. If the Royals had won, who knows how great I might have felt 🙂
But the point is that guys need time like this.
Now some guys go overboard. They use time with other men as an excuse to shirk their responsibilities or avoid the sacrificial live they are called to live. They make time with the guys a regular thing while those they are to love go without their attention. Bad move!
But an occasional opportunity, maybe a once-a-month refueling is a good idea. Those friendships help me see the value of all my other days and let me know that I’m not alone in this life of providing, caring, and serving.
If you don’t have guys you can occasionally spend time with, you may be headed toward an emotional tragedy. Many of the mistakes guys make come from exhaustion or loneliness. They find refuge in places they shouldn’t or just crash after neglecting their own emotional needs. An afternoon at the ball game, sitting on a river bank with a fishing pole, or swinging a golf club may be just what the doctor ordered.
Here’s some advice: Find friends who care about what you care about–guys who are living their lives with similar commitments. You don’t have to get all emotional or talk about feelings and stuff. Just being with guys like you helps you be a better you.
Don’t neglect your own need for encouragement and friendship. None of us are invincible so take an occasional afternoon to find strength in friendships with other guys.