The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
When will you be that guy if you don’t start now?
Starting to realize that I’ve reached that point where there’s probably more calendar pages stacked up behind me than still hanging on the wall in front of me. Depressing, yes, but that’s life. 50 may be the new 30 (or in my case 51 the new 31), but they don’t give you 20 more pages for your calendar.
This realization got me thinking about the man I am and the guy I hope to be. Most of us have those thoughts from time to time. You know, someday I’ll be more… or I hope to… Maybe a bucket list still has more than half the entries unchecked. Well, if this is my halfway point (meaning I’ll live to see 102), I better get busy.
Truth is, you and I are becoming the men we choose to be on days like today. The decisions and choices that accumulate today are the ones that make up the life we have and will have. Someday is on the horizon, and if I want to affect that day, I need to get started now.
I think that’s why some guys go through the “mid-life crisis” thing. Yeah, a few get reckless and throw away the best things in their lives, but nearly all of us start looking at life and wishing we could blow dust off some unfulfilled dreams. We wish we would have…well, you can finish that sentence a dozen different ways.
The point is that if we’re ever going to live intentionally, we better start now. Start now being the man you meant to be. Start now being the husband you thought you’d be. Start now being that dad, that friend, that boss, that whatever. Even if you’ve got more calendar pages left than me, don’t waste any more of them being haphazard in how you live.
That’s what I love about the Brotherhood. The four commitments–purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence–remind me every day to live intentionally. Who I am becoming is every bit as critical as what I am getting done. And the older I get, the more clearly I’m feeling that reality.