The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
I spend a lot of time with pastors. That’s my life.
Eighteen months ago, my denomination asked me to leave the local church where I was pastor and help pastors like me. There are thousands of them.
I’ve spent this week around lots of pastors, who like me were attending a convention of, well, pastors. We’ve laughed together, worshipped together, heard someone else do the preaching for once, and even chased a white ball across a large wilderness. (Okay, it was golf but I did see a big group of people and a guy named Moses wandering around out there!)
I know a lot about pastors. I’ve been one for a long time and, as I mentioned, I spend my life with them now. And I think there’s something every man needs to know about pastors. A LOT OF THEM ARE LONELY!
In fact, a few nights ago the leader concluded his message (a really good one) with a chance for pastors to admit they are lonely. And, there were more pastors streaming to the altar than there were remaining in their seats. Pastors don’t get to run to the altar at the end of their own sermons, but it’s clear that they haven’t forgotten how.
Why am I telling you this? I guess because it’s easier to criticize a leader than to stand by him. Pastors are people too, but God has placed them in roles of leadership that often cause them to be more criticized than followed. They need a few men around that they can count on. They need lieutenants that respond and lead others when they call us into spiritual battle. They need men to step forward who want to make a difference. They need…friends they can count on.
In the Brotherhood, one of our commitments is loyalty–a commitment we make to God and to our church. A big part of that commitment is the relationship we offer to our pastor. He may not need us to be his BEST friend, one he confides in or shares his personal hurts with. But he does need each of us to be A friend. And the Bible says that one of those “loves at all times.”
So today’s blog is just a simple reminder that one of your greatest ministries for God can be the friendship you extend to your pastor. He serves a task that is often overwhelming and easy to critique. You can make a real difference by standing beside him–and “having his back” when needed too!