The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
I was reading today in 2 Samuel 18, where Absalom’s rebellion was crushed by his father David’s army. It’s a tragic story. I can still remember the picture of Absalom hanging in a tree by his hair in my childhood Sunday school paper. Odd, the images of childhood that stick in your memory.
At the end of Absalom’s story, the writer tells of a stone that Absalom had set up as a reminder of his life. He had no heir, so he dedicated a rock to himself so the memory of his life could linger. Actually, my mental picture of him hanging in that tree helps me remember him, but I’m sure he’d rather have a rock.
Actually, I’m sure he would have rather had a son. Somehow this handsome young man never produced one. Maybe he was too selfish, maybe he was just unlucky. Maybe he never took the time to bring anyone close enough to him that they could carry his life forward.
Many leaders make the same mistake. Oh, they have children at home (that they have little time for), but they never invest in someone at a level that the individual could carry their organization forward. Not long ago, we bid a sad goodbye to Steve Jobs, the tech-wizard that gave us all the toys we use to organize our lives. The question surrounding his death was, “What will happen at Apple?” Had someone been prepared to lead his company forward, or will the iPad be his hi-tech rock, standing as an inadequate reminder of his life?
What about you? Are you investing in someone who will carry your values forward? If you have children, you have been given that opportunity in a wonderful way. Don’t miss it!
If you’re a leader, who is your “son” in the organization? Who will carry forward the work you have done in a way that allows your influence to continue benefiting the organization after you retire?
Like Absalom, you can either have a son or have a rock.
(Absalom’s sad story reminds me of how I am blessed with two sons. I am very proud of the men that they are, and am very blessed by any thought that they carry some of my life in theirs. They are already climbing bigger hills than I’ve tackled. Thanks Tyler and Blake for your continued commitment to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence.)