The Brotherhood – part 3

The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence.

Just because I can, doesn’t mean I should.

Think about that for a minute, because how quickly you come to agree may well affect the trajectory of your entire life.

I’ve met too many Christians who make life choices based on what they think they can do, instead of considering what is best. Decisions motivated by, “it’s no big deal” or “the Bible doesn’t really say I can’t” may seem justified, but such thinking opens the door to a lot of unnecessary difficulty.

A young woman once vehemently defended her right to drink, resisting the pattern her parents taught with all her might. I couldn’t offer a strong Biblical prohibition, at least not to her satisfaction, so she lived in her rebellion-induced freedom–one that fueled a set of choices she later regretted. Did she have the “right” to drink? Perhaps. But did the choice lead her in a good direction? At this point, she might agree that it didn’t.

The Apostle Paul tells us that all things may be “lawful” for him, but everything is not expedient or helpful (1 Corinthians 6:12). This verse may be one of the most important New Testament ideas for daily living. Just because I can, doesn’t mean doing so is a good decision.

You see, to live by what I “can” do, has me skirting the edge of a cliff every day, choosing what no one can keep me from. But such a life opens the door to risks and dangers that can bring a destruction I never intend. So the young woman who “accidentally” drank too much and ended up in the wrong bed never intended her freedom to drive her to adultery. Could she have avoided this failure? Sure. She could have drank less, or perhaps decided that drinking wasn’t a good idea in the first place–a conclusion that seems more sensible to her now.

How much skin must we lose or blisters gain before we realize it may be wise to stop reaching into the fire? A good life is made of good choices. When we linger in our freedom around the dangerous corner, should we be surprised when the danger overtakes us?

In your choice for purity, can you watch movies that portray the life you resist and remain as firm in your conviction? You may defend your freedom, but I’d rather see you protect your resolve.

I once encouraged a traveling friend who struggled with pornography to only watch TV programs in his hotel room if he would want his 8-year old daughter watching with him. He thought the idea a bit extreme, but if we believe a show is unhealthy for our children, how do we decide it is healthy for us? Sure, we CAN watch because we are the adult with the remote in hand. But just because we can…

Choices have destinations, and many of those end results aren’t where we truly want to go. It makes sense to get our initial choices in line with the best destinies and resist living as close to destruction as we can get away with. Being an adult, means having the power to choose my own way, as long as my choices are within acceptable boundaries. I would suggest living more carefully than that.

Just because I can, doesn’t mean I should.

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