The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
Who holds you accountable? And do you like the people who do?
I kind of chuckled when I wrote that second question, but I think it’s a good one. You see, the boss holds you accountable. He/she expects you to complete the assigned tasks on time and do them well. And, if you don’t, well…the boss holds you accountable. Of course, he/she has to let you know when you’ve not met the satisfaction level, and–depending on how that gets communicated–we often don’t like the boss for it.
Sometimes it’s your wife that holds you accountable. She points out that what you said you would do has yet to be done. Or she mentions the unfinished things that are a part of your household contribution, and we find ourselves resisting the “nagging,” especially if her tone isn’t as sweet as it was on your wedding night.
Accountability is all about meeting expectations. There’s a standard to be achieved in virtually every area of life, and when we fail to meet that standard, someone holds us accountable. We probably need that, but we end up not liking the bearer of such news.
That’s why it’s important to choose to be accountable. When we determine our own responsibilities and set good standards for ourselves, then we need fewer accountability conversations with others because they are already happening in our own thoughts. Choosing to be accountable can change my relationship with my wife, my boss, my parents, and every other authority relationship I have.
Don’t be the guy that others must “make” do things. Take an aggressive stance toward what needs to be done and you’ll find the satisfaction of completing important tasks while not setting up important relationships for conflict. Take out the trash when it needs taking out, not when someone raises their voice with a command. Go the extra mile on the job because you care about the quality of your work, not because your unreasonable boss is never happy.
I guarantee you that when you give your best because you want to give your best, others won’t have to push you to meet their expectations. Your best will meet almost anyone’s standard.