The Brotherhood – Part 17

The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.

Choose your friends carefully.

That’s a piece of advice I repeatedly offered to my sons as they faced the challenges of wise choices in their teen years. Now that they’re adults, I find myself still celebrating every quality friend choice I see them making. It still matters.

Frankly, at age 50, it still matters in my life too. In fact, I’m guessing we never outgrow the need to use wisdom in selecting the people we walk closest to on life’s road. Friends influence our decisions as much in the adult world as they do when we’re pre-teens. Perhaps the real difference is that as adults, we have probably made enough mistakes in this area that we’re running out of excuses for continued carelessness.

While career choices and marriage partners have enormous impact on the altitude of our lives, friends are a factor that makes equal impact. In fact, I’ve seen friends influence decisions for career change and even marriage problems. Friends seem to shape the way we view the world, and if that input isn’t healthy, well…

I think a man’s choice for friends needs to be most careful in the area of purity. If our friends live carelessly with their marriage relationships, the chances that we will skirt the edge of the same trap are increased. Bottom-line: Your friends look more like you do than you realize. You’re on the same road!

So choose carefully. Find men who are committed to their wives and walk beside them. Choose friends that avoid pornography or impure conversations. Those who chase such things have stepped over lines you don’t want to cross. You may think such care would seem judgmental, but WHO CARES?!

Your marriage relationship is your #1 earthly connection. Don’t let even your closest friend damage that. Choose friends that will help you value your marriage. Those are the kind of relationships that are good for you…

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