The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
Who deserves your best?
I could make an extensive argument that your family, your job, your church, and even your neighbors deserve to encounter you at your best. But before launching such thoughts, perhaps the question itself needs some scrutiny. After all, do people need to deserve my best for me to give it?
You see, if I can justify half-hearted action because that’s what I think someone is giving me, or if I can decide to disregard responsibilities because the person I work for or live with has behaved badly I put myself in an uncomfortable position. I end up allowing someone else’s careless living to dictate my own. They decide if I give my best or not. Is that what I really want?
Allowing someone else’s conduct or attitude to define my own gives them a power over my life that I’m not comfortable with. If I use their choices as an excuse for my own, I’ll have to find the perfect spouse, boss, kids, or friend to bring out the best in me. Probably not going to happen–at least not very often.
Instead, I can make the choice for myself–the choice to give my best no matter what others might be giving me. That sets my life on a higher trajectory and elevates the caliber of the seeds I’m planting. And, if others are waiting for my best before giving their, my choice can spur them to better actions too.
The point is, I want to choose my own road. And the road I want is the one where my best can bring results. So, I have to make the daily decision for excellence even if those I work with or live with are choosing something else. My choice can ultimately be good for them, but it’s absolutely important and powerful for my own life.