The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
Not long after accepting my current position, I sat down and wrote “10 Commandments” for my life in this role. I function best within clear guidelines, and I wanted to remind myself each da what it will take to be successful.
While I have found my entire list to be helpful, it’s commandment number 6 that emerges most frequently as the hardest to obey–your job is big enough, don’t try to do other people’s work.
Again, yesterday, I listened as another friend succumbed to the frustration of things beyond their assignment. Anger at the perceived “what should be” or “what someone else ought to do” stirred a pot on someone else’s fire. I wanted to scream my warning, but the pot continued to boil.
Here’s my advice–do your job and stay focused on what you’ve been assigned to manage. Stay out of other people’s work and hold your ideas of their world as loosely as possible. Keep your eyes on your own paper!
Now, I’m not just saying mind your own business or don’t get involved in others’ problems. If someone is in a burning building or a victim in an ongoing crime, I hope you’ll get involved and help rescue them. And yes, we should stand up against oppressors and defend those who cannot defend themselves. But, when it comes to how others lead or decisions that are other’s to make, stay focused on your own assignment. Don’t assume you have all the facts for decisions that aren’t yours to make. Don’t try to do someone else’s job–that’s not what you’re paid to do!
Many people live in deep frustration with things beyond their control. They think the boss should do this or another department needs to handle things differently. And that frustration can build until you have little energy for your own work. Stay in your own neighborhood. Do your job well and don’t expect to have answers for the questions no one is really asking you.
In the parable of the talents, Jesus’ focus was on what each man did with what he was given. Those that succeeded were not held accountable for the guy who failed. They were judged by what they did with what they were given. So stay focused on your own assignment. Give your absolute best and stop letting someone else’s work drive you crazy.
Do your own job well and contentment will soon fill your heart.