The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
I had coffee this morning with my youngest son, and for awhile we discussed the importance of community. Though much of life encourages us to find our own way, it’s clear that the need for others is a critical part of our original design. God knows that we need each other and the Bible frequently addresses that need.
“It’s not good for man to be alone…”
Yes, that early moment led to God’s creation of woman, but the principle holds true even when the subject of marriage isn’t on the table. We simply weren’t made to thrive in a vacuum (or pushing one). Yet, too many men see the time they spend at church as a box to check on the to-do list. Faithfully, we put in the time for worship–singing along with our church’s quality musicians and listening to our pastor’s insights–but are we engaged in community?
The real intent of Jesus’ Church idea is that we “love one another.” Are we doing that? Do we extend ourselves to other guys and share life with other Christ-following families, or are we just punching an ecclesiastical time clock ’cause it’s good for the family?
If you want to really find the man you’re meant to be, you won’t find him alone. Proverbs mentions more than once that your companions play a huge role in the path you’ll walk. That means our connections with other men who are pursuing Christ’s path can be catalysts for such a destiny. Don’t sit back while your wife flits among church folk like a social butterfly. Engage! Stick out a strong hand and build some friendships.
Truth is, if you don’t have friends at church, you won’t be there long. So take a proactive step in the direction of the community God wants to build around you. Those relationships, while not always perfect, are intended to play a significant role in the man you want to become. In fact, you won’t get there without them.