The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
In your role as the head of your family, are you a leader or a boss?
Lately, I’ve been in a few settings where I’ve confronted some of the differences in these two approaches to being in charge. Here’s what I know:
- Bosses drive people, while leaders develop people.
- Bosses draw authority from their position, while leaders draw authority from the influence they’ve developed.
- Bosses may take liberties with what is ethical and appropriate, but leaders know that integrity can’t be compromised without losing respect.
- Bosses demand results, while leaders get results.
- Bosses work for the company, leaders work for the people.
- People only respect the bosses who act like leaders.
With a little more time, I could probably add to the list, but most of us have experienced the differences between bosses and leaders. The question for today, however, is which you are in your authority role at home.
If you’re a boss, you’ve probably played the “because I said so” card a few too many times. After all, you’re the dad, you’re the biggest, and you may even withhold expressing your approval of your kids in order to demand even more from them.
But if you’re a leader, you know that the victories your child wins are even sweeter than those you garner. You know that helping them reach their greatest heights will always be a higher calling than scaling your own mountains.
So, when it comes to your place of authority at home, be a leader.