The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
Recently, a young couple asked me to help them celebrate their 5th wedding anniversary with a renewal of their vows. I remember standing with them on their inaugural commitment of their lives together and was glad to say “yes” to their upcoming plans.
So this morning, I finished crafting the elements of such a ceremony and I began reflecting on the choice to reaffirm one’s commitment of marriage. Is this a statement that says, “I’d do it all over again” or are we saying, “Based on what I’ve learned, I choose the life we can have together?”
Okay, there’s a lot of both in their thoughts. But I think the latter statement is most powerful. To be reminded on my choice to love and to reaffirm that choice for tomorrow is a potent way to stay on track. Sure, there are bumpy spots in every road and maybe we’d prefer not to relive some of those, but we go forward every day with renewed commitment and determination. We move forward ’cause we really want to. That’s the love that endures and ultimately brings the greatest joy.
You may be a bit further down the marriage road than my friends (My wife and I are celebrating 25 more years than they are), but no matter where you’re at, it’s good to reaffirm your choice to go forward–not to raise the question of options, but to strengthen your own appreciation for the life you have and your determination to give each new day your absolute best.
Commitment is just that–a decision of the will that’s proven through every circumstance. Love is what grows from one’s faithfulness to that commitment and the celebration of it’s many blessings. You won’t find the greatest expressions of love without a strong sense of commitment. And reminding yourself of the commitments you have made can only strengthen your resolve to fulfill them.