The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
Social media has changed our world, likely in ways we can’t fully get our arms around. Today we have access into one another’s lives in an almost unlimited way, especially if you’re willing to share. But while the worlds of Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and other venues connect us to one another in a variety of valuable and unnecessary ways, there are some cautions godly men need to consider.
First, wisdom might say that you shouldn’t have electronic conversations that you’d never have in person. If you wouldn’t even think to describe the frustrations or celebrations of your day with a friend of your friend’s friend, why does it make sense to do so through social media? Be careful of connecting intimately with people you don’t know.
And if you wouldn’t talk privately with that woman with your wife in the room, don’t do it on Facebook or Twitter either. I’ve always encouraged people to avoid alone time with members of the opposite sex, and electronic alone time should be avoided too. Connections of the heart and mind almost always precede connections of the body, so don’t get that kind of stuff started with anyone.
Social media is also a place for people to hide while they speak out in hurtful or unnecessarily antagonistic ways. Don’t hide behind electronic media and act tougher online than you ever would or could in person. The Golden Rule can work just as good from a computer keyboard as it works in person. Treat other people the way you wish to be treated—even when the other people don’t know it’s you!
The Bible reminds us, “Don’t let unwholesome talk come out of your mouth.” I think that’s a good rule for fingers too. Just because you think it doesn’t mean you have to type it! And with a little practice, you can stop thinking it too.
Technology continually thrusts us into questions we may bot be ready to face, but don’t let the easy access change the man you are or shape the man you are becoming. Be a righteous man of integrity both online and in person. If being something else gets you more electronic attention, maybe its time to unplug from the desire for that kind of popularity.