The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.
Yesterday marked the thirtieth anniversary of my marriage–a day filled with lots of celebrations and congratulations. It was fun!
Turns out that a number of our friends are celebrated thirty years of marriage this year too. In fact, one couple was married on the exact same day–of course, we didn’t know each other back then which means we didn’t have to decide which wedding to attend. 🙂
But the day, and the planning that went into my efforts to provide my wife with a romantic day, got me thinking about the rewards of consistency. You see, we live in a rapidly-changing culture that seems to prize embracing what is new, to the neglect of what we have. Everything seems to be about the latest and the coolest. If you have a phone from 2011, well, most of your friends are silently pitying you.
But the best relationships are those that have been seasoned by life. They are the ones that have navigated our differences and found ways to love and encourage us to become more than what we would be otherwise. That’s kind of the idea of marriage. It makes you better and more than you could be by yourself.
Some folks throw in the towel on their relationships rather quickly. Often they seek to take what they can for themselves, and when the newness wears off, it becomes difficult to stay around. Few people change spouses like they change cars. They don’t upgrade at the same rate that they might with their laptops. But, many live everyday wondering about their marriage and if they might find another model more appealing.
Faithfulness brings the greatest rewards. The security, joy, and growth a healthy marriage provides go beyond measurement. You may say, “Well, if I had a healthy marriage, I’d stick it out!” But healthy marriages are built–they aren’t won like a lottery drawing.
So stay with it! Be faithful and work hard to make your marriage one of mutual blessing and benefit. If you do, you’ll find the list of things to celebrate keeps getting longer than you ever thought possible.