Over the past three months, we have been considering emotional insecurities and what they look like when experienced by a pastor. With all the expectations placed on a minister’s life, people often forget that pastors have the same emotional needs as everyone else. Unfortunately, letting those needs get the best of us at inopportune times can be damaging to relationships and even the ministry effort itself.
Here are a few thoughts that may help you manage your insecurities a bit better:
TIPS & TRUTHS…
- Never put your emotional health in the hands of someone else.
The Bible tells us that Jesus didn’t entrust Himself to any man because He knew what was in a man. This sure seems difficult for us because we do need people. But, as we will soon see, the only safe place for a pastor to invest his emotional needs is in his own relationship with God.
- The truth is a requirement for spiritual and emotional health.
Nothing can take the place of being honest about your own feelings. Pretending that your insecurities aren’t real does little to free you from their impact.
- Most of our unhappiness and insecurity is the result of lies we believe.
The good news is that much of what your insecurities are telling you isn’t true! We’ll explore this reality soon.
- Recognize that you will believe what you want to believe.
If you choose to believe something—even if it is false—you will live as though it were true. This is where many of us find our deepest struggle.
- The truth can be eclipsed by a thrilling lie.
For some reason, human nature can lead us to prefer the lie to the truth, especially if that lie is reinforced by how we have long felt about ourselves.
- A secret to healthy living is negotiating and balancing life’s hardships.
We have to have an effective plan for dealing with our setbacks. If we don’t, they will be able to unleash their most destructive capacities on us.
- Remember that hurting people naturally hurt people; intimidated people intimidate.
Many of the sources that enhance our insecurities are likely covering up a batch of their own. Once we’re free of our own destructive thoughts, we can begin seeing others’ insecurities more clearly.
- We can only pass on what we possess ourselves.
We need to conquer the destructive elements of our insecurities. Unfortunately, they can be contagious—sneaking into the lives of our children as well.