As a pastor, you simply aren’t allowed to have too many personal problems. While most folks realize that you’re human, just like they are, there will still be a great deal of pressure to keep your own struggles hidden. People feel insecure if they think their pastor isn’t doing okay himself. Pastors may be people too; it’s just that they can’t act like it.
So when it comes to insecurity, pastors have nowhere to go. And yet, pastors deal with insecurities just as much as anyone else. We wrestle with fitting in, being good enough at what we do, and often feel that the successes of others make us look inferior.
- Did you know that 70% of pastors surveyed said their self-image is lower now than when they entered the ministry?
- Did you know that 90% of pastors reported that they feel inadequate for the tasks before them?
- Did you know that 95% of pastors say they don’t have the leadership gifts to perform in the way their congregations expect them to perform?
- Did you know that 75% of pastors responded anonymously that they are intimidated by the lay leaders or staff with which they work?
Like everyone else, pastors have a need for belonging.
Like everyone else, they need to feel valuable.
Like everyone else, pastors can feel inadequate at times, especially given the high expectations that are attached to our efforts.
Like everyone else, they long to feel significant. We have a great need for a sense of purpose and meaning, even though our work often matters for eternity.
Over the next few weeks, let’s talk about what we feel. Specifically, let’s consider the most common forms that insecurity can take in our attitudes and actions. Maybe, if we can get a handle on why we feel what we feel, we’ll be in a better position to receive the well-meaning words of others in a constructive way.