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Notes from the Journey with David – 43

December 28, 2011 1 comment

43. David…ordered that the men of Judah be taught this lament of the bow (2 Samuel 1:18).
David’s desire to honor his predecessor takes shape in teaching his men to honor him as well. His lament for Saul and Jonathan demonstrates respect for these leaders and highlights the finest of their exploits. So many leaders stand on the back of those who criticize their predecessors, and they pay a long-term price for such immaturity. By their actions, these teach their men traits that are opposite to those David has taught his men. Then these men suffer a diminished integrity that will rise in moments that are inconvenient for their new leader. Favorable comparisons to one’s predecessor is a leadership gain that seldom lasts for long. The wise leader teaches those who follow how to honor the efforts of those who have led before. Those seeds will bring a valuable harvest someday.

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Two Steps Toward a Healthy Church – Part 4

December 27, 2011 Leave a comment

We’ve already seen the two steps every pastor must take toward a healthy church–grow yourself and build a team. Now let’s continue our look at the two steps only the people of the congregation can take. Last time, we saw the first of these–face reality. Today, Part 4 of our discussion calls for the people to create an embracing environment.

I’ve been in many plateaued and declining churches, usually as a guest. I pastored a couple of these, but more recently, I’ve been the guy that the fella at the door doesn’t recognize. And usually…it shows. Now, first of all, I’m glad when there’s someone at the door because that’s not always the case. But a few weeks ago, a tall man held the door for me but didn’t say a word as he pressed the bulletin in my hand. Then I walked through a foreign hallway, flowing with the traffic toward my apparent destination. No one spoke to me, welcomed me, or said a word in my direction, until the pastor instructed such a moment in the service and the old couple in front of me obeyed.

Now, I’m a church kid. I have so much experience walking into churches that I seldom feel confused or uncertain as to what to do. But I’m the exception. The extremely rare exception. In fact, I’m the dinosaur of church life. People like me just don’t exist anymore. Instead, an entire culture drifts into a worship service with absolutely no knowledge of what to do or what will happen. And if we treat them the way many churches have treated me, well…

As a guest, I can tell whether or not the people of the church want me there, have any interest in knowing me, or could ever care about my life. I can make that judgment in minutes. Now that may not seem fair, but that’s what your guests do every week. Where are the people who love people? Where are friendly folks who have a hope that their church might grow? Is the pastor the only guy hoping for that?

Each week, the people of the church create an atmosphere for the guest experience. I’m not talking about making sure the greeters all showed up or have their cues down pat. If welcoming new people is someone else’s job, then my church is failing at it. Now I’m all for trained greeters and the systems we put in place to extend a good first impression, but friendly people–genuinely friendly people–create the best environment.

Sadly, in many struggling churches, the members come in each week more concerned about themselves than their church. They wonder if they’ll see their friend or if someone will notice their new outfit, or if the pastor’s sermon will be what they need. And they wonder why the pastor isn’t growing their church. Maybe he’s just not doing a good job.

In the church I pastored, we did a little experiment. I asked 40 people to commit to a six-month challenge. Each week, when they attended the weekend service of their choice, I asked them to MEET someone they had never met, PRAY for someone or promise to pray for them when they heard or saw a need, and HELP someone in even the simplest way (carry a diaper bag, point out restrooms, etc). We called it MPH and thought such an effort would help us “pick up speed” in becoming the church we wanted to be. We even filled out cards each week, listing the names of those we met, prayed for, and helped.

The impact was unbelievable. During those six months, the church became one of the friendliest places I’ve ever been. I never saw a guest by themselves. New people were making friends faster than they could have hoped. In fact, a year later (we tracked it) our visitor retention rate more than doubled. 48% of those who visited are church in that 6-month period were actively attending and involved in the life of the church one year later.

A deacon’s wife remarked, “Pastor, I’m starting to think that seeing our church grow is more about what we’re doing than even what you’re doing.” I wanted to jump up and down in agreement. When we are intentionally friendly, good things happen. People want to be in those places where they feel cared about and see the potential for friendships.

If there was a guest at your church last week, and you didn’t meet them…you dropped the ball!

Does that seem harsh? I’m not trying to offend you, but if a family came to your house for dinner and you didn’t speak to them, you’re wife would be furious at you! Why is that someone else’s job when that same family comes to your church.

Creating an embracing environment is one step that the people of the congregation can take to demonstrate their desire to see their church grow. It’s their most powerful step. So get some people together and start figuring out how to do it.

When we face the reality of our declining church, most of us immediately want to know what to do. Well, here it is…create an embracing environment in your church. The two churches I pastored, experienced remarkable turnarounds and growth. I’m convinced this was the single most important step in both situations.

Notes from the Journey with David – 42

December 22, 2011 Leave a comment

42. Your own mouth testified against you when you said, “I killed the Lord’s anointed” (2 Samuel 1:16).
You don’t win points with David by killing His predecessor. Though Saul is certainly unworthy of such loyalty, especially from the one he so fully mistreated, David maintains his determination to honor the troubled king. Too often leaders find pleasure in the diminishing of their predecessors. They seek affirmation so desperately that they will accept this behavior as somehow honoring themselves. Here, the Amalekite is clearly looking for something for himself. He misrepresents events in order to place himself where he thinks David will honor him, but his lie and his wrong idea prove fatal when he stands before a leader with integrity.

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The Brotherhood – Part 21

December 21, 2011 2 comments

The Brotherhood of the Second Cross was established on Father’s Day 2005 where 160 men stood before their wives and children to pledge themselves to purity, self-sacrifice, loyalty, and excellence. Today, hundreds more have joined the commitment.

As we head toward a New Year, a reminder of the power of choice seems in order. Many of us will try to make some new choices as the calendar page turns. Somehow we know that better choices connects with a better life.

In his book, Principle of the Path, Andy Stanley underscores this reality. He insists that our choices don’t stand on their own, but actually comprise a step in a specific direction. Every day we are choosing ourselves down certain  roads. Stanley asserts that we don’t typically make a single decision toward failure, but a series of choices that lead us to a destination we really didn’t want.

I once preached a sermon on choices and used one of those bungie like cords with hooks on either end to illustrate. (Sorry, I don’t know the technical term, but I have a dozen of these cords in my garage.) Using the one of the “business ends” of the cord, I tried to show that every choice attaches you to a destination. Ultimately, your life becomes the sum total of your choices, with a few effects of the choices of others sprinkled in.

The result is that the quality of our choices become quite important. Make good choices, you get a good life. Make poor choices and…well, you get the picture.

As men, we make choices every day that affect our lives, our family member, our work environment, and even our church. So it’s critical to make good choices. That’s why we established this Brotherhood–to encourage each other toward the best possible choices every day.

Have a great holiday, and get ready to make your best choices in a New Year!


Notes from the Journey with David – 41

December 20, 2011 Leave a comment

41. They put his armor in the temple of the Ashtoreths and fastened his body to the wall of Beth Shan (1 Samuel 31:10).
The shame of Saul’s downfall increases as his body is used in worship of idols and celebration by his enemies. Virtually every leader that is removed from office for his evil becomes sport for his enemies after his death. Conversely, those who lead well from beginning to end are honored, often their bodies made available to their people for demonstrations of reverent respect. Saul is clearly relegated to the former group. Even though the people rally to rescue his body and those of his sons, their act is one of national pride and not love for their fallen king.

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Two Steps Toward a Healthy Church – Part 3

December 19, 2011 Leave a comment

So how can there be a Part 3 if there’s only two steps to a healthy Church?

We have already seen the two steps a pastor must take to help his congregation get stronger–grow himself and build a team. But there are also two steps the people of the church must take to contribute to the same journey. Many congregants know the frustration of a revolving door of pastors with their unique visions, ideas, and strategies. Just when things seem to be coming into focus, something causes a pastoral change and we feel like we’re “back to square one” with someone new.

A frequent change in pastors can lead the congregation to forget that they have some responsibility for what their church is becoming. Frankly, it’s easier to sit back and wait for the new pastor to prove himself or to come up with the right plan that can lead us forward. But churches that move toward health have discovered that the people must get involved and contribute to the new day, often just as much as the pastor.

There are two things that only the people can bring to this equation. The first is the readiness to face reality. Well over half of America’s churches have plateaued or are in decline and the moral drift of our culture is away from the influence of the church more and more each year. Things simply aren’t going to get better at our church unless some intentional steps are taken.

Leadership gurus call it urgency–the “what” that motivates us to see the need for change in our church if we are going to succeed in ways we aren’t succeeding now. Most have heard insanity’s definition–doing what you’ve always done and expecting different results. But, sadly, many congregations seem content to maintain failing ministries and practices that no longer connect with their community. Perhaps like nowhere else in our culture, failure is acceptable at church as long as the remaining members are happy.

I often speak of four questions a church must say “yes” to before a new day can emerge: 1) Do we know we need to change?, 2) Are we willing to change?, 3) Do we know how to change?, and 4) Are we willing to do that? I am always amazed at how unwilling a declining church can be to say “yes” to those first two. Honestly, having the right answer to #3 doesn’t matter if you can’t get a “yes” to the first two.

Yes, we like our church and we like the way things are done at our church. That’s a big part of why we find ourselves attending our church. But if the way we do things isn’t helping us fulfill our mission of reaching people for Christ, are we willing to face that reality? Many aren’t. Even the most amazing pastors can’t help a church get healthy if the people won’t look clearly at the need.

Now, facing reality doesn’t have to mean we take on a “doom and gloom” spirit. Instead, ours should be a determination to fulfill our mission, one that is willing to shift gears if necessary to get back up that hill. Jesus established His Church not to simply be about us, but to be a vehicle through which we can be about the “them” currently outside our walls.

Pastors will often try to call their people to change and new expressions of ministry that can bring a better future, but that pastor often lacks the influence he needs to lead change until he’s been around at leas five years. Since the average tenure of a pastor is typically a but less than that…well, you can see why the people must take responsibility for this attitude toward change.

At the current rate in the Assemblies of God, we will close nearly twenty percent of today’s 12,500 churches in the next ten years. That’s the future unless congregation members are willing to step up and face a reality that can lead to change.

Next week, we’ll consider the second step congregation members must make toward a healthy future for their church.


Notes from the Journey with David – 40

December 16, 2011 Leave a comment

40. Draw your sword and run me through (1 Samuel 31:4).
The end had come for Saul. As had been prophesied, the kingdom passed from his family. His sons died on the battlefield with him that day. Saul feared becoming sport for the Philistines and chose to fall on his sword instead. By day’s end, the people had fled and the nearby towns had been lost to the enemy. It was a day of overwhelming loss–the kind that end the story of disobedient kings. There’s no silver lining here.

The king is dead, the battle is lost, and the people have fled. Yes, Saul has come to his end, but consider the loss others experienced in the same moment. A leader who doesn’t end well leaves a destructive wake, regardless of the good he previously accomplished.

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